Yup, I’ll admit it. I’m an impulsive person.

I jump at things, follow my heart, take risks — sometimes I rock the boat. All of which has my friends and family shaking their heads in dismay and disbelief… (Actually I think some of them trust me by now!)

But as an admittedly impulsive person, I know we get a bad rap.

You don’t have to search too hard to find psychology textbooks saying negative things about being impulsive, or success gurus warning against it.

But in today’s Jacquie Straight Up, I proudly make a case for impulsivity.

Yes, I know. We’re constantly cautioned against being impulsive throughout our lives by well meaning individuals, and it may make sense for a whole lot of people.

OK. This is totally gross, but this is the headline I read the other day while catching up on Facebook:

“Would you drink puss?”

Ewww! Not a chance. But curiosity got the better of me, so I read on. It turns out the health guru who wrote the article was equating drinking milk to drinking puss.

Really? Such a comparison is ridiculous, in my opinion. And it got my blood boiling.

Prior to the gross “puss” article, I stumbled upon a healthy living TV show where the host and the interviewee were vilifying coffee.

Coffee? So now we’re not supposed to drink COFFEE? Are you friggin’ kidding me? My blood pressure soared. (And not from my coffee!)

As you can tell, I’m a bit fired up this week.

“I dare you.”

“I double-dare you.”

“No, wait, I triple-dare you.”

Remember these words? Such were the childhood challenges we inflicted on each other — ones that pushed us into doing crazy, unimaginable, and sometimes brilliant, things.

So when was the last time you heard these words? Not lately, I would guess.

But sometimes, we need a good dare. And that’s what this week’s Jacquie Straight Up is all about: daring yourself to wholeheartedly embrace the last three quarters of 2014 and really make things happen.

I love this quote, as it really sums up today’s big point:

“To dare is lose one’s footing momentarily. To not dare, is to lose oneself.”
~ Soren Kierkgaard

So today, I encourage you to dare yourself to take important risks to further your dreams.

Have you ever been bummed down with self doubt?

I certainly have. Many times in fact.

One day, I can bee all excited about a big idea, rearing to go! But then sometimes the next day, I doubt my ability to pull it off, and start to question myself.

Self-doubt is soon joined by its nasty sidekicks Fear and Procastination, and before too long, we can be paralyzed with anxiety and retreat back to our safe zone.

Sound familiar?

If you want to know how to really kick self doubt, fear, and procastination to the curb, all in one fell swoop, watch the video above, now.

As you’ll see, mantras and affirmations are incredibly powerful. And don’t tune me out because you think this is a bit nutty.

I must admit, I’m a total hedonist. An absolute lover — and seeker — of pleasure.

Simply put, I despise deprivation.

So it may come as a surprise to learn that this week’s Jacquie Straight Up is all about the impact of  WILLPOWER.

Yup. Good old-fashioned grit, determination, and self control.

Yes, I know. Not exactly fun and games. But wait, before you stop reading, hear me out…I’m about to get to the really good stuff.

Ever since I listened to a fascinating webinar on the impact of willpower by Robin Sharma, I’ve been researching it quite a bit. And here’s what I’ve learned: willpower is THE key to success and a happy life.

THE key. Wow. (Believe me, this revelation can change your life for the better.)

And you know what else I discovered?

Confession time.

Last week, I was mad. I mean really, really, mad. Furious, in fact.

I found myself in a position where I was so enraged, I couldn’t think straight. I couldn’t work. I was spitting MAD.

Can you relate?

But then, as the universe would have it, I had an unexpected intervention. (I  don’t believe in coincidences…)

In my inbox arrived a note from one of my favorite teachers, Dr. Wayne Dyer. And his lesson for the day was all about forgiveness.

It didn’t dawn on me, until I watched his video, that I actually needed to forgive this person that got me so fired up.

I didn’t need to forgive them for their sake; I had to forgive them for mine.

Have you ever noticed this about yourself?

That we, as human beings, are resistant to doing those things that are good for us, that make us progress and therefore make us happy?

It’s weird but it’s true, right? Think about something simple like daily exercise. We know how good it is for us, and we even know that we feel great after we’ve done it…and yet so often we resist! We push back against something we know will make us happy.

We all know that we feel SO GOOD when we do make the right choices…so then why are we so resistant to making progress?

In his book, The War of Art, author Stephen Pressfield tackles this very topic — the “dreaded resistance.” He goes so far as to say that “resistance is the most toxic force on the planet.” Yikes!

Have you ever felt blue? Maybe been in a funk that you just can’t seem to shake? Have you been waiting for that elusive person, place, or thing that will “make” you happy? Me too. I’ve been there, but not any more!

I now know that happiness is a choice! I’m here to tell you that no matter your circumstances, you can actually manufacture happiness. It’s true!

Let me explain…

Happiness isn’t something that just happens to us. It is something we either are, or we are not. It is a state of mind, and, as such, we can actually move ourselves into the required state, if we so desire. How cool is that!

In today’s video blog, I share with you my three key techniques for manufacturing happiness.

It’s Valentine’s Day! Which means it’s time to add more spice to your life! (And yes, this means adding a few “Shades of Grey” too…but more on that later.)

Did you know that variety — the spice of life — actually causes dopamine to be released in your brain? Dopamine is a feel-good chemical; it gives us the feeling of pleasure and euphoria. So by simply changing things up, we can give ourselves a natural high. Wow!

If you found this little nugget of info interesting, you’re going to LOVE today’s Jacquie Straight Up. In today’s video, I share my top three tips on adding this much needed variety to your life, including my #1 tip on how to get a little kinky!

This week’s “Jacquie Straight Up” topic is a juicy one, and you may be shocked that I’m even comfortable talking about it. Here’s the deal…

Recently, I was the recipient of a rather vengeful email. It read:

You are a f*#*ing joke. The only reason you have a pot to piss in is because you scored a huge settlement…” (And it went on…)

WOW. Can you say “nasty?” There is no doubt about it, I have a bit of a hater out there. (Be sure to watch the video to get more of the gritty details.)

So why am I sharing all of this with you? Because there is a big lesson to be learned: it is how we react to criticisms and how we deal with our critics that determines whether we sink or swim.