16 Aug Giving you permission!
For this week’s Jacquie Straight Up, I have something on my mind right now that I want to share with you. And I want to ask you this question…. Is there something that you need to give yourself permission for? This came up for me today and it’s strange how very releasing it was when I found myself saying “I give myself permission to look at something a totally different way”. So If you’ve been doing something one way or if you have been fixated on something in your life going a certain way, what if you gave yourself permission to look at it differently? What if you gave yourself permission to do something differently to what everybody else is doing? Or perhaps consider another option that hasn’t crossed your path yet?
So, if you’re struggling with something, give yourself permission to look at it completely differently and to come up with a totally different option. I’m not sure why that particular statement seemed to have an impact on me, but it really did. When somebody else gives you permission to do something, especially when you’re a kid, it really does give you what you need to go ahead with what you’re resisting. And I find that as adults, we can give ourselves permission, but to actually say that to yourself really lets it sink it.
So no matter what it is, whether it’s I’ve been looking at my relationship one way, looking at my business another way, or even looking at something I consider a problem one way, what if I gave myself permission to consider something totally different. To consider a different option, to look at it differently.
Interesting words for sure.
So let me know what you think about this in the comments below this video. Do you have experience with that? Give it a try! Let me know what revelations it brings for you.
What do you need to give yourself permission to do right now?
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Robert Hamer
Posted at 06:35h, 17 AugustHi Jacquie. You are the 3rd person in about 3 weeks who has said this to me: one being the life coach I am currently working with who has taught me how to ‘reframe’ things that are challenging me in a negative way, and my sponsor in my 12 step fellowship who uses exactly the same technique but calls it Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). Reframing/CBT gives me a tool I can use to not only look at something in a different way, it enables me to give myself permission to act differently.
Jacquie
Posted at 08:26h, 17 AugustMessages come in 3’s it seems! Sounds like you’re having success with these great tools – congrats to you and thanks so much for sharing with us Robert!
Nessie
Posted at 07:12h, 17 AugustHoly smokes, this message from you came at such a good time! Last evening, I was explaining to my cousin how I grew up thinking I did not deserve to be happy unless I made others happy first, and felt that I did not deserve to do nice things for myself (strange, huh?) Thankfully, therapy has helped, but last night I did exactly what you are saying in your video….I gave MYSELF permission to start planning for a new haircut, to ditch the glasses and get contact lenses, to do things for ME for a change! As I watched your video just now, it confirmed with me that it’s okay for me to be bold and to think for myself for now on too! My confidence will only soar with a new look, and a new attitude and joy will come with that in time! Thank you Jacquie for messages that really hit home and really do help! <3
Jacquie
Posted at 08:29h, 17 AugustThat is SO awesome Nessie! Your comment warmed my heart. Continue on your bold path! Xo
Gina
Posted at 07:23h, 17 AugustHey Jacquie! This came up for me once when an ex of mine and I were struggling with the concept of having seperate lives and doing our own thing outside of eachother and our relationship. When I gave myself permission to do what I wanted rather than wait for it to come from him, it was seamless and worked out in both our favor. This topic was a lovely reminder of how good it feels to give yourself options. Thanks!
Jacquie
Posted at 08:34h, 17 AugustFabulous Gina! So glad it worked out so well for you!
Joanna
Posted at 07:26h, 17 AugustThis is just the inspiration I needed today Jacquie! I’m giving myself permission to make choices today that will benefit ME!
Jacquie
Posted at 08:35h, 17 AugustSo pleased to hear that Joanna, thank you!