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How to Deal with Endings

This week’s video is inspired by a recent coaching session that I had with one of my VIP clients – And it dawned on me how this is something that effects us all, “how to deal with things coming to an end” – whether it’s friendships, romantic relationships, a marriage, a job or career, a life. When something comes to an end, it has run its natural course and that door is closing so that another can open.

As a society, we find endings so difficult, intolerable and in most cases downright wrong – something to avoid at all cost, and that couldn’t be further from the truth. The truth is that absolutely everything has a beginning, a middle, and an end – some shorter and quicker than others – but it is all meant to be.

We only have to look to nature to know that this is so. Living beings and things enter our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. We are so conditioned as a society that everything should be for a lifetime but that is not the way the Universe works – that’s just a human-created myth to feed our own insecurities!

When something comes to an end, there is a reason for it – it has run its natural course no matter how short, and know that it was perfect for the time that it lasted. Be immensely grateful for all that it was and have faith that the Universe is unfolding as it should. Whenever something dies or ends, there is an opportunity for rebirth, for re-invention and for growth – just as long as you see it that way. And therein lies the key – It’s how you interpret things that creates your reality.

People who go into a downward spiral after the death of a person, relationship, or job, do so because they don’t see these difficult transitions as the natural order of things and as tremendous opportunities for rebirth. Have faith that the Universe is unfolding as it should and when a door closes it was meant to be. The shift that such endings cause in your life, can be perfect for you but only if you see it that way! As hard as it may be to believe it sometimes, the Universe really is unfolding as it should. Take comfort in that and be open to the new opportunities coming your way. When you are open to them, you will see them.

Thank you so much for watching this video – If you’ve liked it, please click the like button and make sure to share it with your friends – this is helpful information for all of us! I’d love to hear from you so make sure to leave a comment below this video and let me know how you deal with difficult endings and what opportunities have come your way.


  • Joan
    Posted at 17:50h, 08 March Reply

    This couldn’t have come at a better time. I have been in a relationship that has been going south for a while and I keep holding on because I hate endings, they are so uncomfortable. But you are so so right, endings are a natural part of life and life’s circle and without an end, I cant get to the next path. Thank you so much , this video has really given me confidence to know that: sometimes the end is really the beginning to something great.

    • Jacquie
      Posted at 12:52h, 10 March Reply

      Way to go Joan! We are holding you in our thoughts and prayers! xo

  • Nancy
    Posted at 18:01h, 08 March Reply

    I use to be the absolute worst at endings and change. It was almost crippling the feeling I got when I had a difficult transition to make, I would absolutely shut down. Over time I have gotten much better, the best advice I can give anyone who has a hard time with ending or change is to immediately go into self care, which is the opposite that happens when you feel stressed or overwhelmed. Make sure your basic necessities are covered, eating healthy, exercise and sleep, the more you take care of yourself the better you will feel, and the better you feel the easier the change change/ending will be.

    • Jacquie
      Posted at 12:53h, 10 March Reply

      Awesome advice Nessie! Thank you! xo

    • Jacquie
      Posted at 12:54h, 10 March Reply

      Oops sorry! I meant Nancy! (getting ahead of myself…)

  • Nessie
    Posted at 07:27h, 09 March Reply

    I loved this video….I will be watching and re-watching it to remind me that things do happen for a reason, and if things that we cherished must come to an end, we must accept it and move on – even if it hurts like crazy! I have my good days and my bad days, but I can say, what helps me is keeping busy with positive things, like organizing my new apartment helps a lot. We all have to start somewhere, and to also remember that time does heal old wounds, and we do have to be open to the wonders that await us! 🙂

    • Jacquie
      Posted at 12:57h, 10 March Reply

      So true Nessie – Thank you. And there certainly are wonders awaiting you! Your positive attitude and the fact that you “get” this will make it so. Cudos to you! xo

      • Nessie
        Posted at 04:22h, 14 March Reply

        Thank you Jacquie! <3 Your reply made my morning!

        • Jacquie
          Posted at 12:25h, 14 March Reply

          yay! Hugs to you Nessie!

          • Nessie
            Posted at 13:53h, 15 March

            I had an “epiphany” today…I met up with my future ex-husband over breakfast in a diner today to discuss what we can agree on prior to our court date this week. While we did agree and it was a pleasant visit, I could not help but feel lots of hurt and resentment, as he is still with the female he was cheating on while with me. I feel betrayed, not good enough, although he has plenty of other faults besides cheating. Anyhow, I returned to work, crying, depressed, thinking my life is so dismal….BUT…I opened this link and RE-READ it until my eyes blurred. I was able to assure myself that ex is not the rest of my life….there is a whole life beyond him – that there is someone BETTER for me out there who will treat me so much better! Just because I don’t see this now or have it now does not mean it will not happen….I am OPENING my heart to the universe and nature…someone with a good soul will find mine and cherish me! When I meet up with my ex tomorrow, I will simply remind myself that he’s not my last resort…that there is something, someONE out there who will make me smile and appreciate me! Thank you Jacquie for your inspiration! I know there will be more days that I cry, but it’s just my healing for the better days ahead!!!

  • Irene
    Posted at 09:18h, 09 March Reply

    I understood completely. Letting go of positive friends, family members, jobs, businesses, seems to remind us of that somehow we were not good enough to hold onto the job, business, friend, or family member. HOWEVER, good things always returns even if it is in another form such as a new friend, job, opportunity, etc. Death is another story.

    • Jacquie
      Posted at 12:59h, 10 March Reply

      Well said Irene – When one door closes, it is to allow another to open – one that is meant to lead us on to the next phase of our magnificent journey. Yes, death is different and so much harder to accept although just as much a part of life as being born is. It’s a tough one. xo

  • Madeline
    Posted at 17:18h, 09 March Reply

    Great message–thank you. Also LOVE the purple on you. My you look fabulous.

    • Jacquie
      Posted at 13:00h, 10 March Reply

      Thank you Madeline – for both compliments. You are very kind and I’m so pleased the message resonated with you! xo

  • tara thomas
    Posted at 10:20h, 11 March Reply

    I loved how brief the video was, I don’t have a lot of time but felt I should watch this. Grudgingly, I guess you are right. Although I have to admit that I have an extremely hard time w/ endings – especially with my beloved pets. Thanks I will watch more of your self help videos in the future.

    • Jacquie
      Posted at 12:24h, 14 March Reply

      Thanks Tara – Thrilled to hear you will join us for more! I am SO with you on pets – animals make my heart melt and dealing with their mortality is very difficult. My beloved jack russell will be 15 on May 31 and I feel so grateful for him. Hugs to you.

  • Jacquie
    Posted at 10:52h, 16 March Reply

    You’ve got this Nessie! Sending you so much love and light on your journey. XO

  • Nikki
    Posted at 12:30h, 17 May Reply

    I have been so berdilewed in the past but now it all makes sense!

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