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How “Fairness” can Mess You Up!

So I have a question and a challenge for you today.

Do you ever find yourself saying something like “It’s just not fair,” “My boss doesn’t treat us fairly,” or “It’s not fair that my ex-husband…fill in the blanks.”

What about “it’s not fair that my clients chose to buy from someone else after all the work I’ve done” Here’s one we go to often “Its not fair that I am being blamed for something or judged unfairly.” And other biggie “it’s not fair that I do all the work in my relationship or friendship– It’s not fair because relationships “should be 50/50”

You guys know what I mean. When things don’t go our way, it seems easy and natural to claim unfairness.

But doing so can really screw up our relationships, our businesses and our lives! You see our obsession with fairness perpetuates scarcity and lack. It’s a classic victim mentality. And when you are a victim, you have no power.

A victim has no power over their destiny because it’s always something else or someone else’s fault. In other words “its not up to me because I am a victim and its just not fair” Can you see how that is rolling over and giving away your power?

It’s funny how the person who most stands in our way and oppresses our bright future is our self.

So my challenge for you this week is to completely give up the notion of fairness. Take it out of your vocabulary. Catch yourself being a victim of fairness and make a conscious decision to let it go forever. Forget the notion of 50/50. Give 100% of yourself. Give to others with no expectation of anything in return.

I know it sounds contrary to how most of us were raised and contrary to the beliefs of society in general – But I submit to you, that it is time to challenge those beliefs. Its time to try a new approach. When you give up the notion of fairness and the notion of 50/50, you will be empowered and your heart will be opened.

As I quoted in an email last month, “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” That was a powerful lesson from the late great Wayne Dyer that if everyone took to heart, the world would be a much better place. If you change the way you look at your world, the world you look at will change.

Do you accept my challenge of letting go of the notion of fairness this week?

In other words, do you accept the challenge of empowering yourself and taking charge of your destiny – of dropping being a victim once and for all?

Let me know in the comments below this video – I love hearing from you and I read and respond to all comments. Give 100% this week with no expectations of fairness and no expectations of anything in return. Your life will begin to change for the better!

If you’ve liked this video, please click the like button and share it with your friends – it will be transformational for some of them so don’t just keep it to yourself!



  • Kimberly
    Posted at 13:14h, 13 October Reply

    This video really struck me, it came at the perfect time. You are totally right we often are the ones standing in the way of ourselves. Thank you for you positive words.

    • Jacquie
      Posted at 09:42h, 15 October Reply

      You are welcome Kimberly!

  • Lauren
    Posted at 13:17h, 13 October Reply

    I needed to hear this as well. I’m going to try and give it 100% this week, I accept this challenge!

    • Jacquie
      Posted at 09:43h, 15 October Reply

      Awesome Lauren – Let us know how it goes!

  • Laura
    Posted at 16:17h, 14 October Reply

    Great words Jaquie. It has taken me time to realize this, nice to know I was in right mind to trust being true to me by giving my best no matter comes at me

    • Jacquie
      Posted at 09:43h, 15 October Reply

      Yes Laura!! xo

  • yuki
    Posted at 00:47h, 15 October Reply

    Thank you so much for sharing your energies with us! Your positive words always cheer me up 🙂

  • Jacquie
    Posted at 09:44h, 15 October Reply

    I am so happy to hear that – Thanks Yuki!

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