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A THREESOME ~ REALLY?!?

It’s time to keep an open mind, suspend judgement, and hear me out as I pose the following question:

What would you do if your long-term partner wanted to open things up in the bedroom, and asked to bring in a “third” or play with another couple?

A three-way? Swinging? Opening things up? REALLY? Yes, indeed. These are all cage-rattling questions — straight from a viewer — that I take on in today’s Jacquie Straight Up. And, yes, things are going to get a bit steamier than usual on this week’s episode!

Sheri wrote in:

Dear Jacquie,

I have been in a relationship for seven years with a man I love. My partner has now expressed that he would like to spice things up in the bedroom, and wants to bring in a third, or maybe another couple. Part of me thinks it sounds sexy and fun, but I’m not sure if I’m completely comfortable with it. Perhaps I’m just insecure? I’m also worried that I may find sex with another person more satisfying, and this will wreak havoc on my relationship. Any advice?

~ Sheri

This maybe be a taboo subject for many, but I’m proud of Sheri for having the guts to seek some advice, and for entertaining the idea.

Having been in this situation myself, I do, in fact, have some advice for Sheri. And the cool thing is, even if you’re not faced with a partner wanting to “swing,” I’m positive my no-holds-barred advice on boundaries will help you create the life YOU want, in or out of the bedroom. Click above to watch!

The thing is, whenever you are faced with a personally challenging question like this, you have to go DEEP within yourself, and get crystal clear about your own boundaries, morals, and standards.

Figuring out your lines in the sand is an intensely personal thing. What is right for one is not necessarily right for another, so don’t be swayed either way by your partner, or those who would judge you.

Remember, it is perfectly OK to question society’s standards, or society’s “righteousness.” The key is to figure out your own boundaries, and then live by them. YOU get to define your OWN life. How cool is that?

The other piece is this: you know that I am no prude, that I’m a risk-taker and a rule-breaker. So why do I think it is so important to have a rule about setting boundaries? Well, it happens to be because this is a big part of becoming YOUR OWN SOUL MATE.

You see, you’ll never be able to love yourself fully, and therefore believe in yourself, if you disappoint yourself. Self love requires self respect…so, to be your own soul mate, you’ve got to figure out your own boundaries and standards and then STICK TO THEM.

And my personal rule about a third party in my bedroom? Well, you’ll just have to watch today’s video to find the answer to that one!

If you’ve enjoyed today’s video, please hit the like button and share with your friends. And, if you have a question you’d like me to take on in a future episode of Jacquie Straight up, send me a note by clicking here. I’d love to hear from you!

I’ll see you next week!

Sending love and strength,
Jacquie
xo

3 Comments
  • Linda
    Posted at 11:50h, 30 July Reply

    Loved your message! It’s so true what you say here.

  • Ingrid
    Posted at 12:13h, 30 July Reply

    From one Natalian gal to another :), your message is spot on. Thank you for being so StraightUp 🙂

  • Jacquie
    Posted at 06:08h, 31 July Reply

    Thanks so much Linda and Ingrid – I’m so pleased that it resonated with you! xo

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