22 Jun How to attract Love!

This week’s video is inspired by the fact that I work with so many women who are wanting to attract love into their lives. Today I am going to expose the single biggest reason why people remain single when they don’t want to!

The biggest myth out there is that if you want love, you aught to find love or find a soul mate…That is just crazy talk – it’s about becoming the person you want to attract. It’s about filling ourselves up so we become irresistible magnets.

We think life will be fixed when we have the perfect partner but the truth is, the perfect partner is attracted like a magnet to someone who is already whole!

So what do you need to do to fill yourself up? Is it to realize that you are a perfect being worthy of love and joy created by a Creator who does not make mistakes?

Here’s the one I want to focus on today: Is it to work on aligning your actions with your values? In other words are you living the life you expect your future partner to live? For example, if fitness and health are important in a partner, are your own actions reflective of that value. If honesty is important in your partner, are you living a completely honest life and one that’s true to you? What about traits like optimism, financial freedom, ambition? Align your OWN actions with your own values and joy will follow.

Here’s the truth about joy – is magnetic and irresistible. I found this wonderful quote the other day and I don’t know who said it but it goes like this “Don’t chase people. Be an example. Attract them. Work hard and be yourself. The people who belong in your life will come find you and stay. Just do your thing.”

So what do you need to do to fill yourself up, to feel whole? Also, when our actions don’t reflect our values it causes endless grief in the relationships that we do have.

I remember having a massive fight with my husband a while back and after I’d been on a staggering rant about his shortcomings, he stared at me stone faced and said, the truth is nothing that I do will ever be good enough for you.”

In that moment I realized that it wasn’t about him. He was just a giant mirror reflecting back to me all the things I didn’t like about myself. I expected him to live up to my values and yet my own actions were falling short! It was a big lesson for me that day!

So often when we focus on working on ourselves and living up to our own standards, our relationships with other improve automatically. As does our irresistibility factor and we begin to attract what we really, really want including deep and passionate love, which really is a very, very good thing!

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