17 Jan Love Games: Hunted in Heels
QUESTION
“Dear Jacquie,
I was recently approached by a man, who for some reason, thought I was some sort of animal he would like to take home and mount on his wall. (Okay, so I’ll be honest, I kind of like that – there’s a reason why I own leopard heels.)
But after our first “outing,” it took him five days to contact me again (via email). Whatever happened to the “chase”? Not only am I now bored, but what’s his name again…oh yeah, I forgot…
Am I giving out the wrong vibe? What do you do when you like being in the game, but don’t want to be “Tag you’re it”. Do you have the rules to “engage”?
-Hunted in Heels
ANSWER
Dear Hunted in heels,
You like being in the game so jump in, leopard pumps and all, and play it for all it’s worth.
As for “what happened to the chase?” – ever read the book He’s Just Not That Into You? I mean, you know this already: if he was into you, he’d chase you relentlessly until you humiliated him enough to completely shatter his dream. The chase is still alive and well – just not between you and him.
The only “rule to engage” is to be yourself. Have that same self-confidence that you are clearly attracted to in men. Thrive on what comes naturally, flirt outrageously and accept the consequences. There will be some who will want to mount you on their wall, some who will just want to mount you and some who will want to take you home to meet Mom. If you are going to play this game, you must know that you can handle it all.
You are only “giving off the wrong vibe” if you are pretending to be something that you are not. Be fully you and your vibe will attract people on the same wavelength.
Some men will come into your life for one night of fun, some for an entertaining chapter in your book, some for ten years of life-lessons and perhaps one for a life time of all of the above. In my opinion none of them are mistakes or coincidences. Aah yes…enjoy them ALL as part of life’s great journey.
Let the games begin!
JS
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