Can we please do away with the Fashion Police, the Worst Dressed Lists and the like? They are killing individuality, creativity and artistic expression on the red carpets of Hollywood. The way these people are lambasted for taking a risk, thinking outside the norm and breaking with tradition is enough to send even the most self-confident among them quivering into oblivion for the rest of their days. Enough with the shredding of individual style, the annihilation of creativity and the perpetuation of a homogenous look that is both beautiful and bland.

Not everything should be judged on beauty – including fashion. What about the interest factor? What about the fact that in my opinion, fashion is and should be a fabulous creative outlet – an expression of one’s personality?

“Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live. It is asking others to live as one wishes to live.” ~ Oscar Wilde

Many people think that I am weird or just plain selfish but I have to say that I loathe the constant compromise required to peacefully but resentfully cohabit with another human being. Yes indeed, living alone – well, with my dog – is a luxury that I am grateful for every day of my life.

In my dream relationship, we live in separate homes next door to one another or at a minimum, in a large house with separate wings. My wing has a beautiful bedroom, a perfect bathroom and dressing room, a TV room/den and an office with a great view.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance!” ~ Oscar Wilde

Of course my message is always that self-love is the most important love of all. When we have that down, we are so much better at loving others. We are able to love fully and without fear. Then we can take to heart the cautionary words of Bertrand Russell:

“Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.”

On this day of extra love, I challenge you to throw caution to the wind. Love fully and with an open heart! Trust yourself that you are strong and secure enough to suffer any negative consequences.

“Be Daring.
Be Different.
Be Impractical.
Be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary.” ~ Cecil Beaton

Ride the Great Adventure that is LIFE!