How to shrug off the critics, naysayers, & haters in your life

This week’s “Jacquie Straight Up” topic is a juicy one, and you may be shocked that I’m even comfortable talking about it. Here’s the deal…

Recently, I was the recipient of a rather vengeful email. It read:

You are a f*#*ing joke. The only reason you have a pot to piss in is because you scored a huge settlement…” (And it went on…)

WOW. Can you say “nasty?” There is no doubt about it, I have a bit of a hater out there. (Be sure to watch the video to get more of the gritty details.)

So why am I sharing all of this with you? Because there is a big lesson to be learned: it is how we react to criticisms and how we deal with our critics that determines whether we sink or swim.

Watch and you’ll discover the key message I’m hoping you’ll take away from today’s video: do not allow the prejudices and the judgements of others to determine YOUR destiny.

Here are my top three tips for shrugging off any critics, naysayers, or haters in your life (I go deeper in my video blog, but here’s the summary):

  1. Turn it around. Criticisms and judgements have absolutely nothing to do with the judgee, and everything to do with the one doing the judging.
  2. Critics are cowards. It takes courage and guts to put yourself out there and go after your dreams. It takes ZERO courage to be a critic.
  3. Take responsibility. We are 100% responsible for our own lives. It is your past, your present, and future.

So my friend, when you are the recipient of criticisms and judgements, remember to stay true to yourself, be real, and do what is in your heart. Fly in the face of the naysayers, and don’t give a rat’s ass what anyone thinks or says about you!

It would be a crying shame if we let small and unhappy people destroy our destiny. Success, after all, is the best revenge…

Please let me know what you think of today’s topic — I’d love to hear about your own experiences with negative people, and how you choose to deal with them.

If this has served you in any way, please hit the “like” button and share this free video with your family and friends.

See you next week!

Sending love and strength,
Jacquie
xo

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  1. Model

    Great video JS!!!
    that sure was a nasty letter indeed! wow.
    I wonder if they would write those letters if you weren’t an inspirational coach, public speaker & all round beautiful person?
    what if you were successful in another line of work? would they still hunt you down and send hateful jealous letters?
    that was just absolutely ridiculous and glad it fueled your fire!!!!
    I enjoyed your message and we will all keep following our dreams and being true to ourselves!!!
    xoxo

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    • Jacquie

      Thanks so much Ms Model!! Your comment made my heart sing! Set those dreams free and FLY! xoxo

      Reply
  2. Louie Armas

    you are absolutely correct!!!! There is so much hatred in this world. Believe me I know. You are your own world, you allow who is part of your world.

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    • Jacquie

      Well said Louie!

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  3. Linda

    Right on!
    I just had a situation today where I stood my ground with someone who tried to convince me against what I believed in. It actually got funny to where I started laughing showing that I would not budge. We both ended up laughing. But, without saying, we agreed to disagree.
    Thank you for sharing your reaction and powerful understanding of what really was happening in your situation.

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    • Jacquie

      Thank you so much Linda – Great to hear from you!

      Reply
  4. Nikkol

    I absolutely love the fact that you tell it like it is! I have enjoyed each and one of your videos and used several of your tips! You freaking ROCK!!!!!

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    • Jacquie

      Oh wow, what a great comment Nikkol – Thank you!

      Reply
  5. Audrey

    Jacquie, Thank you for the great inspiration words! You are so correct, purge the negativity in your life and you will be so much happier! Follow your Dreams, and do not let anyone stop you! I am living it right now!

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  6. Jacquie

    I am SO thrilled to hear that Audrey! Stay in touch!

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  7. Sandy

    Hi Jacquie
    Thanks for this post. It is crazy how jealous and self-loathing so many people really are. As a successful businesswoman myself I’ve employed many people over the years . Sadly I have observed that a lot of people have two sides to them . I watched people be kind and sweet to there co workes but behind their back they say vicious and hateful things about them . I truly believe that it’s jealousy and low self-esteem that drives this type of behavior. I too have been the recipient of a letter somewhat like yours . But I know that an anonymous letter holds no power and speaks volumes about the person who wrote it.
    I really enjoy all your posts and it’s great for someone like me to be able to listen to a positive influence like yourself. Keep up your amazing work, we all need you Jacquie ?

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  8. Jacquie

    What an amazing comment Sandy- Thank you SO much! Sorry for my delayed answer.. My email alert seemed to be malfunctioning….
    Congrats on your success and love that you shared your enlightend take on what makes the haters hate! xo

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  9. Irene Dolnick

    Before I wrote my book, I realized there could be these people because my book has phonics, segmented, blended , high frequency words. It is revolutionary!
    You Tube:kurt, gert, jazmine, and bagel or Irene Dolnick

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