“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation.It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.”
~ Paulo Coelho
Now this – an email that was sent to me in response to “Love Lust and Lunacy”:
“Beyond sad and pathetic. Please get off your self created pedestal. What a sad,empty, trivial and shallow existence…” And it goes on…
YOWZA! I realized that when I put my stories “out there” that I was opening myself up to criticism and indiscriminate judgement so I did plenty of soul-searching and studying on the subject. I have to say that the realization that those who spend their days in judgement of others are merely reflecting how they feel about themselves has been immensely powerful. As Wayne Dyer says, “Judging others does not define them – it defines you.”
I have always worn my life on my sleeve and done it with good humor. Any negative scenarios that arise from living this way have been FAR outweighed by the positive – miraculous “coincidences”, remarkable opportunities and an extraordinary life thus far. And for all, I am extremely grateful.
In my endless studying of great self-development authors and speakers, I have come to the conclusion that absolute nirvana lies in complete self-awareness and self-love. Something that I have to work on daily but I believe that being absolutely self-assured and completely comfortable with who we are inside, leads to a life of freedom. What others say or do no longer affects us. We find the good in all situations and we are able to face life and opportunities without fear. We take full responsibility for our past, present and future.
So go forth into the world dear readers and strive for absolute self awareness and self-love. You will no longer feel the need to judge others. You will no longer feel the need to blame others and you will no longer find endless reasons to be offended.
Your journey will bring happiness and freedom!
Sending love and strength,
P.S. Thanks to my critic for inspiring this week’s posting…